Help!

I recently had a patient who would be peacefully resting and then suddenly cry out "Help!" The first time he did this his family came in and shushed him. They convinced him that there was nothing wrong. I was torn, I knew that they were exhausted, but I also knew that something was wrong with my patient. The next time my patient asked for help I rubbed the hand I had been holding and gently asked what him what was wrong. I told him that I was present and would help him. At first, he said that he didn't know what was wrong. I told him that I would wait, and he could tell me when he knew what was troubling him. He started talking about his "home". He was worried about his home. I asked him what he was worried about with regard to his home. After he told me, I asked him if he would be comforted if I had someone to look in on his home for him. He said that he would and visibly relaxed.
I see this phenomenon over and over again. Many times, patients who have been calm suddenly have fears. The desire to go "home", I believe has a deeper meaning. I believe that when people are faced with going to their divine home, whatever that means to them, that they want to make sure that their physical home and business are in order. Some of these people have not lived in their physical home for years. That doesn't matter. They still want it buttoned up, loved ones and pets taken care of, and things looked after. I was so glad that I had the opportunity to really hear what this patient needed help with.
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  • I love Hospice and dedicate myself in every way to help the families accept the death and do all I can to help them think of their loved ones in Heaven
  • ..what a loving thing you have done, God Bless you Always.
  • How beautiful can that be. God Bless You
  • Thanks for all of the kind words everyone. Yesterday I had my first experience visiting a patient who had just passed away. It was magical and he had so much great energy propelling him forward. We had a quick "conversation" and he was so happy to be free. Truly amazing!!!
  • I'm sure you provided the patient with great peace! It is so wonderful that you were so willing to wait for a response. :)
  • Thank you for taking the time to believe your patient. You gave him great comfort.
  • I received that book as a gift when my Grandfather was dying. I read it in one day and was blown away and SO inspired! I recently read her other book "Final Journeys". It was excellent as well.
  • Have you read "Final Gifts"?
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