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brittany bennett replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"You are correct on this. Seems like in some ways we just block things out maybe. I had similar kind of experience with this. Maybe in some grief stage a person just isn`t aware."
Oct 28, 2010
brittany bennett replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"I think exposure is vulnerability and we should protect it. Maybe I `m just conservative in that way. Seems medical estabilishments don`t respect modesty enough. Am I a prude?"
Oct 25, 2010
brittany bennett replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"I can see two different sides to this this is a private moment with family and should be respected. The other side is limited exposure. Even those a person is deceased they still have privacy considerations. Exposure is vulnerability I think so we…"
Oct 25, 2010
Frances Shani Parker replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"I discuss bathing the body and other death rituals in a chapter of my book titled "Becoming Dead Right: A Hospice Volunteer in Urban Nursing Homes.”

"Muslims wash the body of the deceased during a special purification ritual. My friend Carolyn, who…"
Oct 24, 2010
Mary Clark replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"Perhaps the others are the ones that should not be present Bathing the body is a private affair, i think for those who want to do it ---sometimes I think we / others stand around as voyuers. I try hard to be mindful of intimate moments and leave.
I…"
Oct 24, 2010
brittany bennett replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"I would think the family would not like to expose the body of the deceased. Maybe some would not even realize that others are around. Do you think when death is looming all other things that we consider important are not so so important anymore. The…"
Oct 23, 2010
Debra Heinzelman replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"This can be a very beautiful experience for families. One thing to keep in mind would be to have the family do the bathing with dignity. I have known families to totally expose the body and not keep parts covered up in front of others. May want to…"
Oct 23, 2010
Frances Shani Parker replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"Search engines are often a good start when looking for information. I just Googled "different cultures and death" and found several resources:

http://www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=differe...


While it is beneficial to be informed…"
Oct 21, 2010
brittany bennett replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"Ok will check, just wondering if box would be that much different between cultures. I also would like to know about how to talk to different groups. I don`t want to say something offensive or insensitive to their respective cultures."
Oct 21, 2010
Mary Clark replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"I dont but the death education association might."
Oct 21, 2010
brittany bennett replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"Do you know of any courses that assist with understanding grieving in diverse groups?"
Oct 21, 2010
brittany bennett replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"Yes ,you are right. Should the rituals include any thing on grieving? Or is this more a private affair? I`m not sure everyone should be advised on grieving, maybe they can work it out without outsider help. I have conflicting views on this though."
Oct 19, 2010
Mary Clark replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"yes the moments can be so private and personal one should leave the room I came upon the son and turned and left . When my oldest daughter helped me bath my mom She said" isn't grandma's skin beautiful. "I knew at that moment She would know what to…"
Oct 19, 2010
brittany bennett replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"The volunteer should quietly leave the room I think. That seems so private that the description of it almost makes me cry. I had similar experience where they repeated a story that the woman had told them earlier about some learning life lesson.…"
Oct 19, 2010
Mary Clark replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"At our hospice we have used the box for about 8yrs . It is usually the women of the family who bath and dress the body, take a lock of hair , pick out the clothers. But others help personalize it things to put in pockets , one son shaved his…"
Oct 19, 2010
brittany bennett replied to Mary Clark's discussion Tool for Rituals at the end of life and before
"Ok nice . So family does rituals at tme of death. Do you think most rituals would be the same or would it differ from family to family?"
Oct 19, 2010
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