I recently had a unique experience - and one I wasn't really prepared for. As a vigil volunteer I am always prepared to handle the "spiritual" side of the vigil process, or so I thought. I received a call from our volunteer coordinator and asked if I could do a vigil at a local nursing home run by the Catholic Church. It was then that I learned I was to sit with a nun. I am a Lutheran and it suddenly struck me that I might do something that could offend the beliefs of a Catholic. Unfortunately I didn't have time to contact anyone so I did a fast Google search for Praying the Catholic Rosary - printed it out and took it along.
I sat with Sister Bernadette until the early morning hours. During my visit I prayed the roasary for her (as best I could). And while I was told she was unresponsive - I found on several occassions she reached for my hand (I moved several times to make sure it was not an involuntary reflex I was seeing). She also responded to the harp music I was playing on my mp3 player. She passed 3 hours after I left her.
I was bothered by the fact that I could have been doing something that could have caused her distress so I made a visit to the local Catholic church and spoke with the priest (whom I have know for many years). I told him of my concerns and with a gentle smile he said as long as I prayed from my heart I did exactly what needed to be done.
He then presented me with a number of rosaries and prayer books to use duing my next vigil. He was moved by my concern and put me at ease in knowing I was doing the right thing. I am sure there are many things we could do that can cause distress to family and patients alike. I have found this to be one of the big challenges to the work we do.
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me. It's people like you that I want to hear more from and share my stories with. Looking forward
to hearing more.
Frances