Vision problems are common for residents in nursing homes. Many of these vision problems could be corrected if residents received basic eye care regularly. This poem was inspired by one of my elderly hospice patients who had dementia and poor eyesight. She needed assistance to eat, but there was a staff shortage at the nursing home that day. Using her fingers, she started feeding herself. I arrived to find her with food smeared around her mouth. After wondering what that experience might have been like for her, I wrote this poem: Living Colors A nursing home room serves as your dining place. Colors on a supper plate charm century-old eyes. Green, brown, white form an aromatic rainbow of bygone days that nourish, thrill you with their stories. When no one helps you eat, you reach with forklike fingers. Green tastes like memories of grass tickling childhood toes. Taste buds savor brownness of a mahogany man who hungered for your love. Handfuls of August clouds whisk you to a picnic, hint at mashed potatoes. A volunteer, I arrive to see your smile smeared with dreams. Each morsel of remembrance has fed your starving mind. Anchored in reality of meals with special meanings, your appetite is satisfied with colors from the past. © Frances Shani Parker From "Becoming Dead Right: A Hospice Volunteer in Urban Nursing Homes”

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  • Thanks, Elizabeth. I appreciate your comments. Welcome to our group.
  • This is very moving. Very insightful, and skillfully written.
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