spirits, ghosts, the "light" and the darkness with terror. first person witness     

          I'm writing for my wife Soledad who can't write and I'm not much better at writing. she is a full time hospice cna hha 21 years plus 5 years a nurse in Mexico. She is not allowed to give out much first person hospice experiences.

        at this time we are experience a lot of ghost things Our stepson Codie died in may/13 at 24 and he's here at our house His brother Ashton spends a lot of time with me. Aug/13 Soledad saw Codie for a split second then he walked with her for 5 minutes she could feel him against her side. she welcomed him like a mother. were all hot roders when something is out of place "that f### Codie" gets blamed. there has been a lot of maybes, here a for sure, Jan.14 Ashton is in the kitchen and hollers "what that smell" 4 of us are searching where is this stench is coming from. It's in the middle of the room then i recognized the smell "IT'S CODIES FEET" the boys went back to the garage there was one of Codie's socks on the floor. latter that week the boys were drinking by the campfire and a bottle of beer fell over.  Codie tapped on the window while Soledad was brushing her teeth the turned off the hot water 3 times while she showered. Codie is having fun with us and he gets blamed for everything. i'm 70 and sick, i tell him i'm coming and i'm bring a ass kicking.

         I had the split secoend view of my stepfather the moment he died He's a beat up old sicilian deaf and crossed eyes, the famous Joe Babe street fighter from Monterey. He was sitting in my convertable nodding the "Hey Jimmy" he looked like a young Tom Hanks. I was so happy I can't remember the drive home. The answer machine blinked "It's Phil Dad just died"

         I can go no an on with maybes.

         Hospice events:  In the last 20 years a "the light"  has come from all sides and set the body glow. this has happened a dozen times. Soledad has been there at the moment of death twice a week X 21 years WOW !.    Then there the part that has me very curious.  For some reason the police like to get in my face. I'm a 70 year old minister, 3 deployment Vet discharged a virgin squeaky clean good guy, well they finely took me out. we lost our business, home and was looking at 2 years in prison, all mistaken identity. Now i'm pissed Irish Comanche, Alpha male, and soldier pissed. Soleded says to let it go, If you could be there when a cop or lawyer died and see what happens. She says she doesn't want to be there. there is no "light" There is darkness, terror and there faces are twisted fear.

        Soledad is quite gifted she can tell when someone will die soon, some time people wont die until she tells them to go. these PHd who think they know all the answers???? she hurts when it's a baby

        dieing in a garage: the woman was abandoned when she had a mastectomy her child is saying "i'll be a good man mama" the police are trying to arrest her for screaming in pain as she dies, the next stop the grand children are fighting over grandmothers morphine next stop he has a plastic bag on his head trying to die sooner. then she goes to lunch.

        we are at her village in mexico. she is asked to help a suffering woman. the bed sits on 4 bricks on a wet mud floor one light blub the woman is split from chest to pubic bone then from side to side left open no pain meds. the next morning we went to a doctor and demanded morphine. she had a hard time not giving her the whole vile. the woman had been sent home from the hospital. 2 hours in the bed of a truck. i hope there's a special place in hell for that doctor. 

        

       

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