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who closes deceased eyes and jaws after death.Brother in law says he can do it himself. My twin is dying which makes it his wife so he is hit hard with pain

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  • Your question could be answered a number of ways depending upon the desires of your family. Some will say no one needs to do either. If the family will be allowing others to come and visit your sister after her death, and would feel more comfortable with the eyes and jaw closed, ask your hospice for assistance on how to handle the situation.

    As one who has been around many people at the moment they have died, it is not simply a single action to achieve closed jaws and eyes. The eyes and jaw are closed through muscle action while a person is alive. Even when they are alive, the muscles are so weak that they sleep with their eyes partially open and the jaw is nearly always open. After death when you attempt to close the eyes and jaw, the will often simply open again. Sometimes it is just not achievable. My point is, there are known techniques to may help you achieve this and I would recommend you let the hospice help you.

    Greg
    • thanks Greg was curious how it was done.
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